Foreplay

 

When we compare the female behaviors while sex, we find they are opposite of males in many ways. Unlike males, females get aroused slowly. Similarly they take longer time to climax. Female partner may not respond instantly and the male partner need to arouse her by foreplay before engaging into vaginal intercourse. Most women want long and sensual foreplay for making the whole lovemaking session more enjoyable. Kamasutra says – “….he should have recourse to various means to excite her passion. At the commencement he should rub her yoni (vagina) with his hand or fingers, and not begin to have intercourse with her until she becomes excited, or experiences pleasure. This is one way of exciting a woman.”

Sometimes, the male partner does not take care of foreplay which is necessary for a successful and pleasant session. Even if female partner not heated properly, for male partner don’t make any difference to achieve his sexual pleasure. Male partner’s sex organ is such that he gets the pleasure easily with a little stimulation but female partner does not get what she wants if she is not fully aroused.

 

Therefore, male partner should engage himself for a prolonged foreplay and wait till the partner is fully exited and heated before main game started. When she is fully aroused, heated she will show her increased willingness for union of two sex organs by means of kissing and biting the lips. While foreplay her vagina will be oozing lubricating juices and will be wet, wide and well lubricated for making the penetration highly smooth and pleasurable. Sexual intercourse after prolonged foreplay will be more delicious, more pleasurable for both the partners and this type of intercourse will lead her to orgasm faster if a little attention is given by the male partner to rub or hit her clitoris while stroking his penis into her vagina. As per “Kamasutra”- “The signs of the enjoyment and satisfaction of the woman are as follows: her body relaxes, she closes her eyes, she puts aside all bashfulness, and shows increased willingness to unite the two organs as closely together as possible.

 

In sixteenth century, Sheikh Nefzaoui, an Arabian writer wrote ‘Perfumed Garden’. In his work he has mentioned about the foreplay and how to understand that she is excited and to start genital to genital coition. He says -“ if you would have pleasant coition, which ought to give an equal share of happiness to the two combatants and be satisfactory to both, you must first of all toy with the woman, excite her with kisses, by nibbling and sucking her lips, by caressing her neck and cheeks. Turn her over in the bed, now on her back, now on her stomach, till you see by her eyes that the time for pleasure is near.”

 

“Then when you observe the lips of a woman to tremble and get red, and her eyes to become languishing, and her sighs to become quicker, know that she is hot for coition; then get between her thighs, so that your member can enter into her vagina. If you allow my advice, you will enjoy a pleasant embrace, which will give you the greatest satisfaction, and leave with you a delicious remembrance. “

At last but not the least, my advice – my dear do not hurry up on bed too, be patience, proceed slowly, it yields. Utilize the opportunities successfully for maximum benefits of you both. Lovemaking is an God gifted art, take time and do it properly and enjoy and let her enjoy the game. We are most intelligent species on this planet, then why to do it like animals? Having good pleasurable sex (for both) is good for health as it is one kind of food for soul. Love and be loved.